You will either be rubbing your hands in glee at the title, or cringing.
It seems that the sexual revolution hasn't really taken hold across Ireland. At least not where women are concerned. There is still a huge double standard when it comes to masturbation among we Irish. We totally accept our males of all ages fiddling with their willies and balls, but girl fiddling is still taboo. Am I right?
Do you fiddle? Do you know how? Are you friends with your lady parts? Do you think you need a man to help out every time? Do you feel weird about "down there"? Do you know how to have an orgasm? Separately to having intercourse? Do you enjoy oral sex? Do you need a drink first? Is sex a part of your everyday life, either alone or with a partner? Have you found your g-spot? How high is your cervix today? Are you horny today? Is it coming up to your fertile time of the month? Has your sex life evolved in the last decade? Has it disappeared? What went wrong? How does that make you feel? What are you going to do about it? Can you be honest with your partner? Do you trust him/her?
I really feel that many Irish women are disconnected from their clitorises. Do we ever read or hear about the clitoris in the media? It's function is purely pleasure, is that why it's taboo? I think we all need to learn how to make ourselves come, to take responsibility for our orgasms ourselves, to make friends with our bodies. I think this empowerment would improve our mental and physical health, improving our birth and breastfeeding experiences too.
Have you read Fifty Shades of Grey? Do you enjoy bondage? Sharing fantasies? Role playing? Have you not got the time? Not got the inclination? Do you know orgasms keep your womb exercised? Do you know that you can still have sex during your period? Do you know orgasms can improve pmt and labour "pains"? How old were you when you had your first orgasm? How did it happen? Have you had multiple orgasms?
Do you own a vibrator? Have you tried an electric toothbrush? Is all this making you uncomfortable? Do you discuss sex with your friends? Do you discuss masturbation? How have you approached it with your kids? Will you tell them or let them hear it from their peers? Why? Is it the school's job to sex ed your kids? Has your doctor touched more of your vulva than you?
Have you got some hang ups about your body since childhood? Since childbirth? Is sex uncomfortable? Can you live with that? Can you do anything about it? Is sex glorious, either alone or with a partner? Does it set you up for the day? Does it help you sleep at night? What words do you use for sex? For your genitals? For orgasms? For masturbation? Do the words feel comfortable coming out of your mouth? Can you use the word c*nt in any context? Does it have to have an asterisk? Is "pussy" too porno?
What about porn?
Will anyone dare comment on this post and answer any of my questions? !