Saturday, 16 May 2015

May Madness and Marriage Equality


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I'm running around like a blue-arsed fly this month. With only a few weeks to go until the birth of this baba I'm trying to stock up on things I'll need for both the birth and afterwards. I'm also getting down to the allotment (half-allotment actually, we are sharing this year, "meno male" as the Italians say) and planting, transplanting and weeding in advance of the summer, trying to get easy to maintain crops going for casual visits in the coming months. All the squatting and kneeling is doing great for the baby's position, so I've been told to do as much as I want to keep me fit and in good form for the birth. Between that and yoga I feel good to go. The kids are loving the allotment, helping with everything and planning their own areas to plant in too.

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I'm buying supplies for the birth, also gathering things I'll want around me in labour, both for physical comfort/necessity and inspiration. I've set a date for my mother blessing, and invited friends who have been on this journey with me. I'm really looking forward to it! I've been to some of theirs, but never had one myself, so it'll be a lovely new experience. For anyone not familiar with a mother blessing it's an alternative to the baby shower, where the focus is on the mother not the baby. I really feel birthing is a rite of passage, and a mother blessing is a gathering of supportive people around the mother-to-be who share stories, blessings and affirmations to wish her well on her journey. For more information check out a blog post I wrote last year here about the one I organised for my cousin. I'm going to have the mother blessing in the room I intend birthing in, to get great vibes in there and lovely memories which will sustain me in the more difficult parts of labour.

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I'm also preparing the pantry, emptying the freezer into our bellies now, and refilling it with meals and ingredients for quick dinners when I'm feeling tired in the summer. Stocking up on bulk orders of things that won't go off like almond butter, passata etc. and are cheaper to buy in bulk. I'm going to make and freeze breakfast favourites like waffles and muffins too that can be reheated in the toaster/oven of a morning. If I don't I know we'll end up eating bread every day, and I'm trying to limit the amount we go through. I make the waffles/muffins with oats/spelt/buckwheat etc, so don't mind them half as much.

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I'm finding out who's free and when they can come and give a hand in the summer when my husband is in full time work. I'm also going to hire a cleaner for the first time ever, to give a quick run-around once or twice a week. Though when they arrive and hear we don't own a mop/bucket and do the floors with baby wipes, don't use spray surface cleaners, just natural products, I hope they'll stick around!
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Baby stuff-wise I've been the lucky recipient of enough clothes to literally clothe this baba for 18 months! The first few months of clothes are in drawers ready to go, the rest are bagged and labelled in the attic, talk about organised! I've scored some lovely bargains in charity shops, from lovely clothes shops I normally wouldn't be able to afford at full price, and they seem unworn. 50c an item guys! I spent the winter/spring crocheting for the baba, have lots of cute little things and a massive blanket too, so this kid will be kitted out well I hope. I've also cleared out my make-up drawers, dumping most of it as I've gone natural with the products I'm using. I've cleared out my daily wardrobe and drawers to only be left with clothes that actually fit me, as I was sick of looking through stuff I won't get into for another 9 months at least! Nesting I guess.

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I've also bought activities (small art sets, colouring and sticker books and jelly sweets) for my boys should they wake up during the labour (which I'm planning to have in the dead of night!) to keep them entertained. They both sit and draw for hours at the moment. A daytime labour will mean they can potter in and out and play around the house/watch cartoons, whatever they usually do. I've also bought a present for them to give the new sibling, and presents for them from him/her.

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I've finally weeded the front garden so the strawberries and lavender have room to grow, and set up the plants in the back garden so they only need an occasional watering. We grew a lot from seed this year, so I've planted out most of them, and the stragglers are growing slowly in our mini greenhouse still. This year I'm trying flowers for the first time and have borage, calendula and wallflowers growing from seed, hopefully they'll take well to the garden and give us lots of colour for years to come.

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I'm still feeling energetic, especially early in the mornings, but tend to flag a bit around 4-5pm and get downright cranky if kids aren't sleepy by 8pm, I really need my sleep. I'm having full nights sleep these nights which is bliss, youngest is almost weaned and the baba isn't waking me with kicks. Had 12 hours last night for the first time in years!

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Apart from all that the biggest thing on my mind is the marriage referendum. For non-Irish readers, we are having a national referendum to extend marriage rights to same-sex couples on the 22nd May. I'd love to be out canvassing or marching, but I can't, so my efforts are reduced to spreading the word on the internet and talking one-on-one with people. We got a bumper sticker (thanks Lauren!) and badges so are spreading the word a bit with that too. My 6 year old made a sign for our front window, and keeps asking if all the people we know are going to vote yes. It's such an important referendum that affects family and many friends of ours, if the No voters win it'll honestly be devastating. It's also a really hard thing to explain to my son, as I've so far raised him in a "people are good" bubble. But he's heard about wars and burglars, so I've had to introduce him to bigotry too. But I believe the majority of the Irish people are decent and fair and I'm 80% sure it'll go through. It seems like such a petty thing to even be voting on in the first place, the kind of thing that should have been sorted out a generation ago, but there you go, we are backwards in more than one way in this country. Anyway, please exercise your right to vote, don't assume Yes will get through without you. If you are still undecided please read some of the testimonials on the Marriage Equality site here.

So blog posts will probably be pretty infrequent over the next while, hope all of you have a lovely summer and I'll see you on the other side!
Nee x

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