I'm as perplexed as you are. The pink hair was a bit of a crazy experiment, like a second adolescence, and one I don't regret doing. But I'm still growing out the hair that was bleached and dyed and became frizzy and tricoloured. So the bob is a way of hurrying up the process, getting rid of all the hair that's been annoyingly hard to style without looking frizzy and unkempt. It also feels right, more chic and dare I say it, grown up.
Ditto the clothes, I feel like I'm not even going to pretend I'm near my 20s any more (I'm 37), so I want and need to dress like a woman of my age now. I'm a mother of three. It feels nice. Like I've given myself permission to be elegant and womanly, and not trying to desperately hang on to my youth. I'm retraining as a Nutrition and Lifestyle coach, and I feel like it's a rebirth of sorts, new baby, new career, new me!
I'm not saying this is the best way to dress, or that these styles are going to suit everyone, but I think it's important to feel good in our skins everyday, not just on special occasions. I remember coming across a Youtube video some years ago where a mom was sharing her style tips, and she suggested dressing formally every day (i.e. no sweatpants / exercise clothes unless you're actually exercising) she said you need to think of your "job" as being a SAHM. I found that really awful at the time and actually hated her for making me feel "less-than" in my tracksuit and baggy hoody. But the fact is tracksuits and baggy hoodies look awful on my curvy body, and I feel and look ten times better in a little more structured clothing. I'm taking inspiration from some great 70s photos of a chic family member in her polonecks, and also from vintage photos of chic ladies in the 50s and 60s.
After I had the baby nearly 4 months ago I was at a total loss for what to wear. My pre-baby clothes didn't go near me, I couldn't live in my maternity clothes any more, and I got really sick of stretchy black lycra. I picked up a "Colour me beautiful" book last week in a charity shop and realise how much black drains me and what colours do suit me. So I'm trying to slowly build a wardrobe of clothes that fit and flatter my colouring, nice quality ones that I will wear for years. I'll keep you posted.
I'm searching for the perfect pair of trousers, the perfect blouse that doesn't need ironing, a few printed day dresses for autumn and a neutral coloured bag... looking online and compiling a mental wishlist for the day when I have money to spend! I'm also realising some shops' clothes will never fit my shape (bye bye Zara...) and seeing what shops are making clothes in styles that appeal to me and will look good. So I'm keeping an eye on their sales and will be slowly filling my wardrobe with classic staples. That all sounds so boring but it's actually really exciting and freeing for me! While I'm still bigger than my usual size I'm going to invest in the accessories, and save buying the fitted clothes until I'm back to my regular size.
How I look is a direct influence on how I feel, and I feel good every day since I stopped wearing clothes that half-appealed, and replaced them with clothes that actively excite me to wear, and I'm no longer keeping things "for good". You might just see me in the supermarket in my party dress!
It's wardrobe therapy and I like it.